22 May 2017

You're Not Failing If You're Not Flexing

How often do we log onto social media and see someone else living the most perfect life? The wardrobe we would die for, the house that we can only dream of and going on holidays that are so far beyond our reach that we can't believe they're real. We all follow people who are living this perfect life, who are top of their game. But what impact does this have on us? 

The power of social media is unbelievable. Before social media was a real force, a successful year in my eyes would have been making enough money to be comfortable and to have good health. But these days I want all of that, along with holidays to Bali, a wardrobe full of Acne Studios and a country manor which a lil picket fence and a sunflower patch. In reality my life couldn't be further away from that! I currently live in a one bedroom flat by myself and as it stands, I'm not going on holiday this year. But does this mean I'm not succeeding? Like fuck!

What we have to remember is that social media (especially Instagram) is a place where people go to flex. A place to show off your recent purchases, somewhere to show that amazing steak you ate or the place that does the most amazing flat white. We have to keep in mind that these peoples live isn't delicious coffees and new trainers all of the time.

The likelihood is that these people are working 9-5's and creating content on the side (which is a job in itself!) and they're just showing you the side of their lives that is worth showing off or even exaggerated. Take me for example: judging by my Instagram and other social media, you'd never guess that I live in a flat that can only be described as 'brown' or that I work a desk job for 40 hours a week.

By no means am I slating the people that are living 'the perfect life' if anything I'm rooting for them. Having these people at the click of a button only gives me a reason to work more and hopefully one day, I'll be the one doing yoga on a Bali beach! But if not, I'm still doing ok. In a way, I don't think 'being successful' can be measured by your air miles or how your Instagram looks. If success to you is having a large Dominos and tub of Ben & Jerry's then who's to say otherwise?


1 comment

  1. This is really an extremely interesting phenomena, but it isn't new. I am young, but previously this used to materialize in the sort of house you had, the car you drove, and where you vacationed. It used to be a way to project the quality of your life (it didn't matter if you were going through a failing marriage for instance, so long as you had a Ferrari in the garage.) We have just made that whole outlook way more micro, Ferrari's are replaced with the perfect flat white, houses are replaced with flatlay's of your desk, etc.

    In a way it is just a continuation of what was, but it is healthier, we are taking joy in smaller things. What is worrying like you point out, is that it shouldn't be in denial of the tougher aspects of our lives, and we all need to make a conscious effort to talk more about it on social media, which seems to be a reflection of who we are.